Rise to the Challenge…..
As we can all agree, these past nine months have been bizarre and not what we have known as typical times of spring thru fall. During much of this time, have you felt like you "should" be doing or “should” have done things? I have tried to focus on things I "want" to do--like organizing files, piles, and decluttering things in general. While some of these projects are still in progress, I look forward to their completion!
But...back to "should". The word can be pretty negative and have some guilt attached to it. When we believe we "should" do some-thing, it's because family, friends or society have made us think it's the right thing to do or something that ‘has’ to be done...but it's likely not something we "want" or "need" to do. "Should" is also critical and judgmental, especially this time of the year—gearing up to the holiday season—whatever that might look like this year! It isn't good to use for our own actions and it's really not good to be telling others what they "should" be doing. I mean, really, who am I to tell someone what to do (although I confess that hasn’t always stopped me), and I sure don't like it when the tables are turned!
So I suggest we adjust our thinking. Instead of telling yourself “I should get organized”, say "I feel really great after I organize" (or whatever!)--and give yourself permission to “let it go” and say good bye to "should"!
But, more importantly, be THANKFUL that we have the opportunity of choices between should, want or need!
In ABWA Friendship,
2020-2021 Pathfinder President